Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 23, 20212 minNo Child Should Have to Sit Alone With Their Hurt“Children don’t get traumatized because they get hurt. Children get traumatized because they’re alone with the hurt.” ~ Dr. Gabor Mate,...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 21, 20212 minCapital M. Capital E. “Authenticity is not some new-age pseudo-spiritual concept. It’s actually a survival necessity.” ~ Gabor Mate, “The Wisdom of Trauma”...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 17, 20213 minKata, Part 2: The Art of Slaying DragonsThose of us who train in martial arts and have kata as part of our style know that a fight is never going to look exactly like the set of...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 17, 20212 minThe Kata, Part 1: Emotional EnemiesLast December, I got a bit of a health scare. Well, maybe more like a final health warning. My body yelled, “Yudit! If you do not start...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 13, 20212 min"This Kid Has NO Brains!” "This kid has NO brains!” Anonymous the Elder Sitting and having my coffee this morning in a shop in Mitzpe, I overheard a kerfuffle...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 10, 20212 minViolence Behaves Like a Bad Smell Violence, like many other atrocities, behaves like a bad smell. What do I mean? Well, if I walk into a room and there is a bad smell, my...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanJun 6, 20211 minSurvivor, Victim, Victor, Warrior, etc. Everybody has the right to choose their own label. Survivor, victim, victor, warrior, etc. My story, no matter how similar to your story,...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanMay 23, 20212 minSigned, Worried FianceeHere's my response to another great question that was sent in by one of you. 💌 Dear Yehudit, I am not sure how to handle this issue with...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanMay 23, 20212 minOn Doing the Best You Could with What You HadIn my Facebook group, Women Setting Healthy Boundaries, I see so many women posting about regret, and how they wish they’d handled...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanMay 12, 20212 min"Empower Them to Live With Their Choice"Shared with me and shared here with permission: “I had known within a month after our wedding that I did not want to be in this marriage....
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanMay 11, 20212 minI Am Anti-Violence....I need to ask a question because it has been plaguing me the past week or so. Is the only acceptable answer to violence unbending...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 19, 20212 minCall Them What They Are! Assailants. “How often have we stood there helplessly? How many times have we left a situation, giving our space over to assailants? How often have...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 18, 20212 min"Consequence: Beyond Resisting Rape," by Loolwa KhazzoomI can’t believe that this book was written in the late 90’s and that I have never heard about it until now! What??? How did that happen?...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 18, 20211 minOn Dealing With Grief, Part 2 -- The Power of Asking “What Do You Need?” After I told my friend about the box and ball analogy, she told me that she was trying really hard to find something she could say that...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 18, 20212 minOn Dealing With Grief, Part 1 -- The Box and Ball Analogy Last week, a friend called me for some advice about helping her mother deal with grief. She was worried, and she didn’t understand why...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 14, 20212 minThe Tournament, Part 3I bet you are wondering why I brought my oldest and my youngest children to a Judo tournament. Well, that is because we were going to be...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 14, 20212 minThe Tournament, Part 2There are different ways of running a tournament based on the number of competitors. When there are a lot of competitors, it is some sort...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 14, 20211 minThe Tournament, Part 1In June of 1994, about two years after beginning to train in Judo, my Sensei decided that it was time for me to go to a tournament. To...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 5, 20212 minOncology and Violence Prevention - An AnalogyI have been thinking a lot about how it might sound that I don’t appreciate aftercare provided by emergency services. That is not at all...
Yehudit Zicklin-SidikmanApr 1, 20212 minAn Artichoke, A Kerfuffle, and a Lesson in Boundary SettingRecently, I had a little kerfuffle with my 4 ½ year old grandson. Had to do with an artichoke and you can only imagine. Because of my...
Yehudit Sidikman Dec 12, 20212 minThe Power of Circles During my time in the desert, I wrote this: “Circles have been a special part of the last 16 years for me. Circles represent the sharing...
Yehudit Sidikman Nov 16, 20211 minWhat Will Bounce? For the past fews days, I’ve been talking about how to get through life when we’re exhausted from having too much on our plates. Judging...