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Six Inappropriate Behaviors Recently Seen on TV and Tips for Handling:

Behavior 3. Constant Changing of Topic to Push Agenda

This is a boundary-breaking tactic. Plain and simple. We need to talk about A, and no matter how many times I try to stay focused on A, you answer and figure out how to add B to the conversation, even though I have made it clear that I don’t want to talk about B.

The reason you think you can get away with this is that since you started talking about A, it would be “rude” for me to interrupt you as you start talking about B. Wait? What? I agreed to have a conversation about A. I did not agree to have a conversation about B. I am the problem if I try to stop you?

And, what if this isn’t just about topic A or B, but the inappropriate person throws all sorts of inappropriate comments into the conversation when they are allowed to speak? Things that are mean or intimidating? How do we handle that?

Well, setting verbal boundaries is about finding the mantra that makes sense for you and just getting used to saying it.

Well, setting verbal boundaries is about finding the mantra that makes sense for you and just getting used to saying it.

“I am not talking to you if you continue to change the subject.”

“I am not ok with how you are talking to me.”

“If you can’t stay on topic, this is over.”

I'd love to know what your mantra is. Please share.