Consent. It's Simple.

“Because sometimes we want to and sometimes, we don't. And that’s ok.”

~ El HaLev Staff Member

Exactly. Consent is revocable. It really and truly is. 

Consent is revocable. It really and truly is. 

Think about it. You ask me to lend you my car. I ask you my few questions about how good of a driver you are, consent and hand you the keys. 

You then get in the car, rev the engine, and barely miss the tree across the street as you fly out of my driveway. You zoom off down my block, breaking the speed limit. 

Yes. I have the absolute right to call your cell phone and demand that you immediately bring my car back to the house. Doesn’t matter that I originally said you could use it. Doesn’t matter that I am judging your behavior and you were “only kidding.” 

None of that matters. My car. My right to ask you to return it immediately. I don’t care if you are already halfway to the train station to pick up your mother. I don’t trust your driving or your judgment, I can demand that you bring the car back.

Whether or not you comply is going to affect the future of our relationship. I don’t think this story is confusing to anyone. Yet, for some reason, when it comes to sex, it does get confusing. 

I don’t think this story is confusing to anyone. Yet, for some reason, when it comes to sex, it does get confusing. 

It shouldn’t as it is really this simple.  

In case the car analogy doesn’t work for you, maybe this tea analogy will: 

What analogy would you use to explain consent?